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Ask the LifeQuake™
Doctor Dr. Toni Galardi

In January I am starting a teleclass to assist you in designing your life so that it truly reflects passionate purpose. As we move into the end of the year, you might want to start reflecting on what worked and didn’t work in your current life design. Come join me in this empowering opportunity to truly discover what you are passionate about and create a breakthrough in having a life that truly feels alive and vital.
November is the month that gives us an opportunity to contemplate gratitude. What are you grateful for in your life? Although we set aside one day in America to celebrate this, I invite you to do that every day this month. Write down three things every day that you are grateful for and may your Turkey Day truly be a day of giving thanks.

Dear Dr. Toni:
I am a 57-year-old executive who happened to be sitting at a café and picked up Vision Magazine. I have never written to an advice columnist before and am not sure why I am now. Maybe it’s because I have some time to kill, so what the hey.
So, I am in love with a woman who drives me crazy. She is scattered, disorganized, and barely making a living as a “life coach.” We have a great sex life. She has a beautiful heart. I just don’t think she is wife material. I just don’t know what to do. I can’t seem to let her go.
John A.

Dear John:
What exactly is wife material? You don’t articulate here what you think a wife is, so I am going to take a leap and suggest you mean, traditional wife. You want someone who is neat and keeps an orderly home—is that right? Did you two talk about your must-haves when you first started dating? Did you discuss your deal breakers? What do you want your wife to do that you cannot hire someone to do for you, and enjoy your girlfriend for the love and pleasure you receive from her?
In every relationship, we have differences. There are always things that two people get annoyed with one another about. The thing I know as a psychotherapist is that you can’t fix chemistry. If you never were really turned on to her, you never will be. If you never were in love with her, you can’t make your heart feel that. However, if those two things are in place, I would ask you to look at how influenced you are by who your mother was as a wife. This idea you have about what a wife is may be coming from a program you have in your subconscious. If you are absolutely sure you want a wife and she doesn’t have the goods, love her enough to let her go. Be courageous and do it with kindness and compassion.

Dear Dr. Toni:
I am a healer and a life coach. I self-published a book that hasn’t gotten me very far. I’m barely making ends meet. I did enjoy being on the radio as a guest and was wondering if that is something I should revisit. I think I could make a great radio talk show host, but I’m afraid I won’t be able to support myself. Do you have any ideas as to what to do?
Jenna

Dear Jenna:
I would suggest that you get on as many shows as possible and sell the heck out of your book and coaching. Be the best guest you can possibly be and look for an opportunity to be a recurring guest expert. This might turn into a co-host position—you never know. It never hurts to take a risk. Staying stuck and miserable is the bigger risk to feeding your soul.
Good luck!

For those seeking personal guidance from Dr. Toni, she can be reached through her Web site, http://www.lifequake.net, by e-mailing DrToni@LifeQuake.net, or by calling her office at 310.890.6832. Discover a new, passionate life direction through a soul blueprint reading or her career repurposing coaching called The LifeQuake Method. Contact Dr. Galardi today and give yourself the gift of a special offer for Vision Magazine readers to work with Dr. Galardi so you can expansively move into 2012.